I hate to say it, but the cliche is true: a healthy, loving, relationship with yourself is the secret to healing all your relationships with others and can even help you get your ex back. This page has 1 major tip that will help you enjoy happier, more fulfilling relationships with others and even your ex if that is what you truly desire. As a bonus, I have included 5 signs that you are well on your way to doing all of the above.
So, let’s get started. To heal your relationship with self and others, and to get your ex back, the one thing you must do is:
1. Learn to create distance between yourself and your emotions
Okay, I know it sounds crazy, but not everything you feel requires a reaction from you. In fact, I dare say you are better off learning to process your emotions without reacting to them. You see, responding to your emotions is a very different thing from reacting to them. Reacting is often irrationally impulsive, while responding requires thoughtfulness and being present. The latter is the result of understanding that emotions are what they are and that while you feel them fully and observe them they need not be the driving force behind your actions. This will snowball into 5 signs that you are becoming healthier emotionally and more attractive to others – including your ex. Here is how it works.
5 signs you are on your way to healed emotions and getting your ex back (if you want them)
1. You realize how fickle emotions are
As you begin to observe your various emotional states, you will begin to realize how quickly your emotions can change from one state to another and how unreliable they subsequently are as an indicator of the direction you should be taking in love and other areas of your life.
2. You stop seeing emotions as good or bad
Many of us have been cultured to label the emotions we may feel as good or bad. Anger is bad, while lovey-dovey warm feelings are good. However, all emotions are good and have their place when expressed through healthy outlets. As you observe your emotions more and react to them less, you become better-equipped to respond to them through healthy channels that allow them all to become assets and not prisons used to restrict our experiences in life and love.
3. You begin to recognize the difference between your real self and some of the things you feel
Emotions are just one aspect of who you are. As you begin to observe your emotions more and look at the deeper issues behind what may or may not trigger certain emotional experiences within you, you will get to know yourself at a deeper, less superficial level.
4. You begin to embrace your true self more and become more joyful
As you begin to know your inner self more, you begin to embrace him/her. You become less attached to feelings and validation from others. As you release this need for validation and to be constantly stimulated by one emotion or the other, you become naturally happier.
5. You become more attractive to other
By doing all the above, you are likely to become more grounded in yourself and in how you relate to others. As such, others – including even an ex – will begin to see you in a new light and enjoy being around you more. People begin to draw to you like a moth to a flame.